'Learn to walk away from the people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals and self-worth.'
Friend or foe?
They tend to have a narcissistic personality, are opportunists, (almost) always have an excuse ready, are liars, cheaters, inconsistent, very judgemental and always very negative when it comes to you and/ or something you are doing. Sometimes, their toxicity is very subtle and very hard to detect.
Recognising toxic relationships begins by developing your awareness and noticing how their behaviour affects you.
How do they make you feel?
Do their words and actions trigger something in you - i.e anger, sadness, frustration, unworthiness?
Do they dismiss you - always "just joking of course"?
Do they diminish your capabilities?
Do they make you feel like you're not up to the standard or like you are never good enough?
Do they try to embarrass you in front of other people?
I have been there. It used to make me feel extremely miserable and depressed. Those feelings came out in the form of migraines, anxiety to the extreme, insomnia, fear, feeling super uncomfortable, emotional eating, the list goes on...
Understanding and accepting that you are surrounded by someone toxic takes time. But once you know it's there, you need to gather the strength to get rid of said relationship.
And whilst there are many ways to deal with it - there are no good or bad ways, I think the first one is to be honest, first to yourself and then with them (but for your sake). Sit down with them and tell them. And although a difficult conversation, it is a necessary one. You're not losing anything! If anything, you're getting yourself and your confidence back.
If they are not supportive, do not bring you joy, don't make you happy, do not help or show concern for you and your well-being... just let them go. And I know it's easier said than done but trust me when I say that, it's the best thing you can do for yourself.
Surround yourself with people that matter, that love and support you.
Living to other people's expectations is a waste of time and energy. Start living and creating the life you want.
And remember, what other people think of you, it's their problem. Not yours.