'Your energy introduces you before you do'

Omniscient (adj): all-knowing

'Tell me about yourself'

'Who are you?'

'Why should I pick you?'

Have you ever been asked these questions?

Unless you are asked to talk about yourself in relation to a specific topic, I find these questions difficult to answer. Do you?

Some days, I find it difficult to know who I am or what I feel like before I even have coffee!

However, these are important questions.

All these questions and other similar ones, all come down to how well you know yourself. Who you are is not a static, still trait. As a human being, you are ever-changing. You evolve. You develop.

Who you are is an important mix of your innate traits and characteristics, your relationship with others, the connections, and disconnections you make with people and material things as you navigate through life, how you see yourself and how others see you.

The 'Self' is usually described as:

- the picture of who you are as a person. A collection of beliefs about oneself, preferences, opinions, and attitudes organized in a systematic manner.

To know oneself is, I believe, a great skill to have, and can become invaluable in many areas of your life.

Some examples? Here:

- can help you identify the jobs you can and want to do;

- the type of friends you want to have;

- the type of people you can and want to work for and with;

- help you identify your morals, ethical principles, and values;

- the best way(s) to take care of yourself and those around you, your health and your health

This is by no means an extensive list.

In the long run, it helps you identify what's really important to you and in your life.

Who you are is a result of your experiences, feelings, morals, values, strengths and weaknesses, ideas, and opinions. These things make you... you.

I went through a phase of losing myself. Although at the time, I couldn't really name it. Or better, I did name it but it was simply 'unhappiness'.

It was a slow gradual thing. I didn't really notice it until it was too late.

I went from being someone full of life and dreams to becoming someone else's shadow.

I didn't have dreams, desires, or opinions. I had become a people-pleaser. I didn't want to seem 'difficult', or feel stupid in front of those who I thought were superior. Better. More than me.

My behaviour became dependent on the group of people I was with and, most of the time I kept quiet and rarely spoke or expressed my opinion with fear of being judged.

I never said no, even when that's all I wanted to do.

But the worst part was that the people that were meant to be there for me and to help me, chose to ignore the situation and that made me feel even sadder and the situation more difficult to deal with.

Ultimately, being able to physically leave the place I lived in at the time, turned out to be the best decision I made.

Since then, I have embarked on a journey of self-healing, self-knowledge, self-appreciation, and self-care.

I allowed myself to grieve before I could start my new journey and is the first thing, I believe, anyone should do.

Acknowledge those feelings, deal with them, maybe talk to someone about it, try to look at it from a different perspective...

I started with journaling and although I do it a lot less nowadays, I still think it is a brilliant tool.

One of the many things I've learned from this experience is that you should only do what makes you truly happy and do it fully.

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