Do you ever wake up feeling you just cannot deal with the number of things you should be doing?
Do you ever feel like you've lost direction?
That everything is just a bit too much? that people are too much?
That even just brushing your teeth and putting some clothes on, is an effort?
This year has most definitely taken its toll on all of us.
I don't know about you but I had some really tough days, where something as simple as putting tracksuit bottoms on was just too much effort. Days in which I felt sad, without purpose, extremely fatigued, suffering from insomnia, but mostly, angry. Angry at the world, at this virus that has turned our world upside down and forced us to live differently. Not being able to see or hug those closest to us. Many lost family members and friends.
But as with everything, we need to look for the light at the end of the tunnel. To look at problems from a different perspective. To learn yet again, new ways of fighting these uncertain times.
A few days ago, I came across an article that talked about a session between a therapist and his client, and how something he said, helped her through a rough time.
Kate Scott had been struggling and some days she even found it hard to get out of bed. In one of her sessions with her therapist, he asked her what she was struggling with, to which she replied 'I dunno man. Life.'
His response was this:
“No, what exactly are you worried about right now? What feels overwhelming? When you go home after this session, what issue will be staring at you?”
She believed he wanted a more... 'profound answer' but in the end she said:
“Honestly? The dishes. It’s stupid, I know, but the more I look at them the more I CAN’T do them because I’ll have to scrub them before I put them in the dishwasher, because the dishwasher sucks, and I just can’t stand and scrub the dishes.”
To which he said:
'Run it twice'
As she began to explain to him that you are not supposed to, he interrupted and said:
“Why the hell aren’t you supposed to? If you don’t want to scrub the dishes and your dishwasher sucks, run it twice. Run it three times, who cares?! Rules do not exist.”
It had NEVER occurred to me to run my dishwasher twice! NEVER!
But why not?
We grow up in a world full of rules given to us by someone else. Have you ever stopped to question how those rules came to be in place and dictate how we do things? who came up with these ideas and turned them into rules?
I believe my message is that you should always be open to looking at things from a different perspective. It doesn't matter what it is. Allow yourself a wider view of the world by listening and learning from everyone around you. But most importantly, question the methods, experiment, explore, and find your own way. A way that works for you.
And on the days you can't be bothered to scrub the dishes, just run the dishwasher twice.
Kate Scott's original post can be found here.